Feb 14, 2015 - What a beautiful way to celebrate the day of LOVE by witnessing two of my favorite friends, Yeng and Yan say their vows before the altar in a “covenant of forever” on their wedding day.
Ang galing lang sobra kung pano sila nagkakilala at nagmahalan. I am blessed to have witnessed up-close how their love story bloomed.
Naalala ko kung paano tulala si Yan pag may mga meetings kami with the songwriting team sa church.. He has liked Yeng na pala for a long time.. haha. This was way back during the times of my 2012 “Hello To Heaven” concert.
I know Yeng has been praying for “the one”. But knowing her brave, fearless, and sometimes almost intimidating personality, I also knew that she was a “wildfire” kind of girl that no ordinary boy could handle. Yeng has never had a boyfriend. But there have always been boys who have tried to get close only to retreat with a burn.
But then came along Yan, the man.
There was one time Yeng and I had this conversation. Out of curiosity (di ko pala alam na gusto ni Yan si Yeng nito.. pero medyo may hinala lang ako), and so I asked Yeng if ever Yan likes her, would she “consider” him?
Yeng said, “E suplado yun..di nga ako pinapansin e..” but then she said, “pero kung manligaw siya, kikiligin ako! hahaha!”
And from there, I was happy.. because deep inside, super thumbs up ako if ever si Yeng and Yan ang magkatuluyan!
If the man truly loves God, I am confident that he will know how to love Yeng… and so I was thrilled on that day when Yan texted my husband Danny out of the blue. They met in Dunkin Donuts over a Dunkin ‘ Yan and yun na nga, sinabi niya na he has feelings for Yeng! We’ll save the drama-love story for Yeng and Yan to tell… but talagang pambiharang pagkataon it is whenever we go to that particular Dunkin Donuts shop today to hear “Ikaw” being played over and over again. Who would have thought?
Lahat kaming magkakaibigan are truly happy for them. Yeng and Yan’s wedding is a picture of a complete joy made in the art of celebrating love.
Love is a journey with a START, it MOVES and there is always a beautiful happy ENDING.
I truly believe that like Yeng and Yan, we can live that in complete joy and celebrate love as well.
1. When LOVE has a RIGHT START
Yeng and Yan had a right start.
A deep and strong foundation is crucial in any sort of building process. In the same way, I saw how Yeng and Yan individually dug foundations in God’s word. They started honoring God first in their lives, making God the foundation of their relationship. I saw how back in 2008 Yeng passionately and wholeheartedly surrendered her life to Jesus. I so admired her humility in allowing me to speak into her life and for trusting God’s Word as she follows Jesus. Yeng has the purest and most teachable of hearts.
I met Yan way back in Victory Los Banos as a youth leader and a few times at gigs during his Indios days. But really got to connect with him in 2012 where he worked with Victory QC serving as a worship leader and worship director. He had just finished the Wildfire album that helped raise up support to build the incredible facility we see today at Victory Katipunan. More than the position or the platform he was on, you could see the humility and the love for God that he had to be so willing to serve Him.
In 2012, together with other worship leaders and song writers from around Victory Metro Manila we would have regular workshops and classes.
I just want to share this one time when I asked Yan to play guitar for me for an impromptu gig when my main-stay session guitarist wasn’t available. Just as my husband Danny opened the door to let Yan in and unload his equipment, I get a random phone call from Yeng. She asks me if she can come over to the house because she had nothing else to do that day. It was so random.
Now just to clarify: Yeng is one of the busiest people ever. During that season we hadn’t seen each other as often as I’d like because of her Music Museum concert and everything else going on with her life. It was me having a hard time setting a date with Yeng so this caught me by surprise.
I told her “um, sige come over, but I have rehearsals” and I didn’t know she was already on the road and already at my village gate when she’d let herself in. She entered our home not knowing I had a “visitor” without any make-up, without her usual glam TV/showbiz look that we are all accusomted to seeing.
I know that Yan was already introduced to Yeng during her “Ok Lang Maging Single Sa Valentines” concert in Music Museum back in 2012.. and even if Yan had back-stage passes from a friend-of-a-friend, Yeng hardly knew Yan. Yan admits, he already had “stars in his eyes” after that concert encounter. hahah
But what were the chances of him meeting her again, let alone, in a private, casual laid back setting like my living room!?
It was just so amazing, how God orchestrated it all. Nobody planned this moment. But I know as Yan just wanted to serve God through music, and Yeng just wanted to continually be accountable with me with regards to her walk with God, they got to know each other at our house in a setting where they could just be who they are, with no pretension. Nag dinner kami sa bahay, at dun sila nagsimulang magkwentuhan at magkakilala.
I think it started with a conversation about cats. “Mahilig ka ba sa pusa?” … “Mahilig din ako sa pusa!” hahah
Ako naman – honestly, hindi masyado. So I let them talk.
They got to know more of each other during the rehearsal times of the HELLO TO HEAVEN concert and I am so forever grateful to Yeng for producing that concert that has served the underprivileged children from RIGHT START
We had just opened up our new center during that time and pambihira – Come to think of it, a big part of the whole Yeng-Yan love story all started with RIGHT START!
As we seek to honor God first, we are actually positioning ourselves to be placed in the right times and right situations for God to move in incredible ways.
2. When LOVE journeys with the RIGHT MOVES
Yan and Yeng are incredible movers for honoring their parents even from the beginning of their relationship. Honoring the family of your future spouse speaks volumes on how you truly value each other. It shows importance and respect to those he/she loves. Yan and Yeng sought the favor of their parents in their relationship from the very beginning.
They moved in honor and respect.
Yan met with Yeng’s parents to clearly lay down his intentions to Yeng. The goal of entering into an exclusive boy-girl relationship is always marriage. Hindi siya laro. Love is a decision.
Yeng and Yan honored their parents, as they honored God, by also choosing to stand and fight for purity. They chose to follow the narrow path of God’s original design of physical intimacy. Sex is God’s idea. Contrary to what the media is communicating, God designed sex in the bounds of marriage. Sex without commitment is basically just lust. True intimacy is communion – the two becoming one.
(*side note to singles: You are made in the image and likeness of God. God designed sex in the context of marriage for the purpose of permanence , procreation and pleasure..it is sacred.. It is a special gift that can only be enjoyed truly within the bounds of marriage..2 becoming 1. If you want real intimacy and if you want ultimate satisfaction of sex, it can only be experienced within the bounds of marriage. Having sex outside marriage can destroy your sex life and your marriage.)
To truly fight for purity, Yeng and Yan waited for their first kiss to be in front of the altar. It actually takes more strength to wait. Yan truly acted like a man as he chose to value Yeng and present her pleasing unto the Lord, to only kiss the bride after pastor Larry declared “you may now kiss the bride” and not before. They said “I do”. Not “I did”.
3. When LOVE has a glorious RIGHT ENDING
In the end, “Marriage” glorifies God, because it symbolizes the pure love of God (groom) to us – his church/his people (bride). He loves the bride so much that He willingly laid down his life for her.
The wedding of Yan and Yeng is a covenant of forever. This is just the start of their journey together as husband and wife, and as someone who has been married for almost 11 years now, I know that Yeng and Yan will go through a lot of trials in their marriage. They may come a time that they fall short of each other’s expectations, but with God in the center, they will be able to continue this walk as a married couple with complete joy.
Though we might have failed to have a right start, or even failed to choose that right move, the amazing thing about the grace of God is that Jesus who is forever faithful can help us start again. He is the only righteous one who can make things right for you and in you. You just have to allow Him to work in your life.
You can start right now.
Jesus said, “Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.” – John 15:10-11
This is the song that I wrote specially for Yeng and Yan:
Ang Simula Nating Dalawa